Language is universal. We do have alterations based on the geographical position of the population but the meaning it carries is the same, meaning of the words uttered that is. Some words sound different and therefore might not be understood but the message is the same. If a disagreement occurs for not understanding a word because it is French and not Bosnian or English then it is not a big deal, use a dictionary and keep moving on. But why do misunderstandings occur when both parties speak the same language, and want to share the same idea?
You know that there are two sides of every story. By that, the right to oppose one’s opinion has been granted automatically. But there are certain situations when both parties have the side, want to share the same idea but seem to have a problem either presenting it or understanding it correctly. It seems like it is in our nature to disagree. We fight certain boundaries every day so it comes as a reflex reaction to fight everyone else around us.
The weird thing is that, for some problems to be solved, a mediator has to step in. He/she makes sure that an agreement is reached, an agreement that will suit the parties “at war”, a compromise. But what happens in the end, pretty often, is that this mediator becomes the third party, an unwanted one and ends up taking the blame for not solving the problem, and at times for being the problem. It seems like there are no easy solutions these days.
What would help is taking things one at a time, calmly and without our irrational need to always be right or to disagree. Stop, listen, resonate, make sure you understood the words spoken to you, then act. Another blogger pointed out the importance of listening, and how in return listeners receive notice and acknowledgment from the person speaking. Listening well will enable you to understand better, therefore there will be less misunderstandings.
Maybe there are, but only with things that do as you want them to. See I came to my room and the light bulb died when I tried to turn on the lights. I’d talk to it, but it doesn’t speak any language. So I got another one which works and perfectly understands that it needs to be on for me to be able to see what I’m writing. Now that I’ve finished, I’ll turn it off.